I am changing F's Pediatrician.
He's a dick.
I decided.
I can't continue to let him make me feel stupid for being 'overly' concerned about the ONLY thing that is important to me. And I can't let him continue to make me feel incompetent because my 3 year 3 month old is still in a Pamper. Fuck that.
I call to talk to him or make an appointment and his secretary is rude and obnoxious. To the point that I feel like I am bothering her. Oh! I'm sorry, did I bother you...at your job? (I am even having BD call to request her records be transferred...he will beat that grump at her own sarcasm and rudeness game by a mile...)
I get to see this doctor and he's so sarcastic (and I'm a HUuuuuuGe fan of sarcasm..see hubs) that I feel belittled. I'm all for sarcasm in the right place, but don't use it on a first time mom about her only child. It's just plain wrong. No matter how strong willed or competent that mom may seem. It's a thin veil and you're tearing it up. Dick.
If there are any doctors out there, especially children's doctors...Just remember that your patients, or their mothers are in a very delicate state when they are with you. They are probably insecure and worried. You really should think before you say something rude. And use kid gloves. (Pardon the play on words) They come in all different sizes. I'm sure you can find them to fit you.
So, that's it then. I'm changing her pediatrician.
I already called my daughter's original gastroenterologist from when she was a baby and we have an appointment at the end of this month. One down.
In my quest to find her a new doctor, I have asked around and her preschool teacher recommended hers. Right in our neighborhood. She says he is one that will welcome each and every seemingly silly query with respect and humor. He is one that will welcome me into his office with caring and honesty. He is not one that will make fun or be sarcastic to the point I'm doubting myself. Almost one to go.
Take that Anti-Pamper Superstar. You just lost your best parent.
22 comments:
Good for you!!! Hit this rude doctor where it really hurts - in his bank account.
GOOD!!! Dumbass. Him, not you. :)
I don't blame you for wanting to switch peds. I hate doctors like that.
Gosh I wish I could give you our pediatrician, he's terrific. Always available, down to earth (he's Captain Birkenstock with a beard) and gives practical advice but goes with the flow. Plus he's the best in town. He used to have this receptionist from hell that I hated who gave me trouble every time I saw him and I would have left if it weren't for my undying love for him. She eventually was replaced and it's been smooth ever since.
Proud of you, dear friend! You'll be SO happy you did this.
Yeah I had an experience before miles was even born. I went in for my official "you're pregnant appt and this bitch made me feel like how dare you get pregnant, and be overweight and kidney disease. Never mind that this was a wanted baby and I was friggin married and had a good paying job with insurance! You know those bastards love the insurance! Anyhoo I changed to a different doc in her group and that pissed her off cuz her $$ was going to a different doc.
good for you!
Do NOT let this man belittle you about the potty training thing! Junior Mayhem finally started "getting" the potty thing in January. He was 3 years 4 months old! I have felt that shame sister! I have seen the blank stares and the polite banter that comes along with JUDGEMENT!
Newsflash- KIDS DEVELOP AT DIFFERENT RATES!!!
Sorry, you struck a nerve! I was so tired of well meaning friends and family members telling me helpful things like "Well, no one has ever graduated high school wearing a pull up."
WTF?! How is that helping! Either give me some magic cure for his complete lack of desire to use the toilet, or get out of my face! :)
You need to read some of my older posts....you will see that you are NOT alone!
You definitely need to get a new doctor...for the money they make, a little bedside manner is NOT too much to ask for!
Oh.. sorry...
that reminds me of my most favorite saying....
IT'S NICE TO BE IMPORTANT, BUT IT'S IMPORTANT TO BE NICE!
GOOD FOR YOU ... hearing that just ticks me off soooo much!!!!!!
There was a movie once w/ William Hurt... about a doctor getting sick w/ cancer... and then he saw exactly what it's like for us patients.. I think it was called "The Doctor"..??? Do you know which movie I'm speaking of...
I tell you what...
about a year ago... right after Matthew had gotten out of the hospital after almost 6 months in the ICU...
our freaking pediatric GI doctor called me a "freak" after I asked him to please wash his hands (before he touched Matthew, we were deathly afraid of him getting RSV in pediatric office, considering Matthew's fragile lungs)
OMG... DID I EVER GO OFF ON THIS BIG JERK ... how dare he call ME a "freak" because he was caught not washing his hands before visits...
so I proceded to tell him what we had just been thru w/ this kid for the previous 6 months....
Oy vey...
some doctors think they are above people....
and the last time I checked... they put pants on one leg at a time like the rest of us.
I would be sure to call him back and let him know about your experience....
I wouldn't think twice about telling him all about it.
Just my 2 cents - you should also call your insurance company and let them know. The LOVE to know when doctors are being jerk-faces.
grrr doctors like that make me soooo mad! Good for you to make the switch!
Sending positive find dr vibes....
Right on, again! Good for you! You are absolutely right for changing. My ped and I haven't always seen eye-to-eye, but have for the most part. He also allows calls AT HOME between 7 and 7:30am M-Fr! How awesome is that?! You can speak directly to him!
Way to go. Don't take no sh*t from them!
I'm really surprised there are still doctors like that out there. I'm so sorry you had that experience. Good for you for taking charge of the situation. That doctor doesn't deserve anyone's buisness if that is how he treats his patients.
Nothing worse than a condescending doctor. Does he have kids? Hope you find a considerate and understanding one. Only the best for your baby and you.
Good for you. Sometimes parents need to remember that while doctors were getting those letters after their names the parents were spending time with their children. Who knows the child better?
I'm going through the EXACT same thing. I adored my pediatrician's office in the beginning but recently, it lost three of our favorite doctors through some kind of fall-out. Since they left, we've been treated nothing but RUDELY.
Good for you to stand up and not put up with it and I've resolved to do the same.
I wore a napkin in the nights till I was 5!
=( Not good thing. But I turned out all right. I think! Haha..
GOod luck!
Good for you! It's so important to like your pediatrician. I hope you find a good one. BTW, my sister took her son in for his 4 year check-up and asked about him still pooping in a diaper or pyllup. Her Dr. recommended that she get rid of all diapers and pullups and give him Milk Of Magnesia. He tends to hold his bowels so now he'll have to go and there won't be anywhere to poop but the potty. Today was the first day. I'm anxious to hear how it's going.
I can't tell you how many times I've changed my girls' Dr.
I use to work 50-60 miles from home & that drive wouldn't get me home til late in the afternoon. My husband is home between noon & 2pm so he'd take them to their dr apt. The bitch ass Dr. I had once had the NERVES to question my whereabouts b/c my husband would take them to see her & not me. I told him The Next time she questions my absense you tell her that your wife WORKS and isn't like the teenage Welfare mama's she has up in her office all damn day!
If she asked about me or not, I don't know b/c he never told me *lol* and I was pissed & changed her DR. after that crap.
Little Princess was more than three by the time we got her out of diapers. It just takes time! She is five now and still occasionaly pees the bed. Good for you for changing doctors. I once had a doctor tell me that she would rather I brought Little Princess in 10 times for nothing important than not bring her in once for something that was.
YEAH!!! ASSHOLE!
Damn so many incompetent doctors and their ridiculous arrogance. The lack of good graces in the medical industry has got to go. That's it. It's not cool anymore to be a doctor, or a nurse or whoever, "helping" people and be a dickwad.
If you're too busy for politeness? You're TOO busy. So, slow your greedy ass down.
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