I still hate my dog. With a passion. Did I mention he farts like an old grampa?
The Girl torments him so much that the new rule is if she touches him (read: torments him) she gets a time out. It's been working. So far.
We are meeting her new pediatrician tonight. I'm excited.
She has been a wild woman lately.
She's eating three full meals a day plus snack and sleeping ALL NIGHT long. (She's always been a champion sleeper) I think she's going through a growth spurt.
In school, she's learned how to ride a tri-cycle all alone and loves playing. But she still can't socialize with her friends. She talks about them all day at home like she's playing with them, but in reality she won't go near them.
She's testy-testy-testy but also holding back a little more. Mista and I talked last night for a millisecond before bed and thought that maybe she realizes that her baby days are over and feels a little insecure about it. She knows she's gaining more independence and in the meantime she's gaining more fears than ever. And she's always been an anxious kidlet.
Potty time is NONexistent but she talks a big game. "When I go on the potty"....and all that jazz. But to get her to do it is a whole 'nother story.
I know she wants to. Just like she really wants to play with her school friends, but something holds her back from actually joining in. I have tried to teach her to join in, we role-play and all that and she's great with pretending...but when it's actually happening, she's not 'there', not capable of bringing herself out there. She just recently started talking in class like she does at home. Oh! The way she has progressed in other ares!
I sometimes feel like I'm doing something wrong. No, this isn't a pity-session...I really wonder if because I am so uncomfortable in these kinds of social situations I just can't help her get it right.
Before therapy, I couldn't walk into a crowded room without having some sort if anxiety. I never went to parties unless I knew the people there WELL...It was bad. I always seemed like the life of the party, I still do, but a lot of it was coverage for my hidden fears back then. Now, I just go for it and enjoy myself...mostly.
I'm still very stubborn and when I get my bloomers in a twist, there's usually no turning back..I can hold a mean grudge like no one's business. Just ask my family.
So, I really think she is more like me than I like to accept. Mista calls her my "mini-me" and I just don't see it...until recently. I truly think I am making her like me and some of that's good while some of that's really really bad.
Mommyhood is frickin' hard man. I need a drink.
17 comments:
Adam is standoffish when I began to see it as a personality trait as opposed to a weakness it was better.
Invite the friends over. Let twinkletoes be on on terra firma and perhaps she'll bond a little better?
Also, the really shitty moms never second guess themselves.
If you don't want Artie anymore, I'll take him! ;) hehehe My Murphy would love a sibling!
Sounds like Princess is just being a crazy girl! It'll get better! I just know it!
i'll drink a few for you tonight. :)
Dude It is totally HARD~! I had no clue! Really I did not think it would be easy but this hard?!?!
Ok so I do not think you should be all hard on yourself though ... even if she is a mini-you .... that is not a BAD thing, she may need a little help in the social part but it will come ... you made friends... you go out in public (right?!?! hehe!)
Give her time. One thing I have noticed as of late is not only is every kid different ... they also excel at different things. My kid can talk it up (now she never used to) with the other kids and play like crazy, yet STILL struggles to jump with two feet (or one anything including feet leaving ground she is not into).
You have her in school that is a start and she is interested in dance again, so that will help. Give her time (and you!) I figure they grow up way too fast anyway!
TOTALLY hard.
(And I've gone back and forth--is totally spelled with one L or 2? It just doesn't look right to me either way just now.)
Wow I beleive that if I had had a girl I'd be going thru the same shit as you. I also know that there is still a possibility that we could have a girl ( no i'm not preggers) and it worries me that I might no get it right, hell I still think that I am not getting it right for Miles! I agree with housewife, moms who never second guess themselves, question isecurities and challenge status quo ain't worth a plug nickel!
Lub u
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Janet,
The Princess got all my neuroses and then some! We can't help passing them on to our children! Cut yourself some slack....I am telling you, YOU NEED to read that Dobson book,
The Strong Willed Child.
Most of it is her personality......not you and Mista's influence.
Now, some of it is your influence...but NOT ALL!
I am guessing you are an awesome mom! You are an awesome blogger!
Have a cocktail and try to relax!
I have to believe that we are not ENTIRELY responsible for our kids' personalities....either that or you might find me on a TALL bridge!
Hang in there.....I'm rooting for you...and SF! :)
Don't forget the offer still stands......SF/Junior Mayhem Smackdown.......Metal Cage Grudge Match.....We could charge admission!
(hee-hee)
Amen! Mommyhood IS hard. I'll have a limeade-arita and think of you!
I don't think you're making her like you, she just happens to be like you. Our kids seem to come with their own personalities. But you're right it is fricking hard.
Your last sentence said it all. Amen to that, sista! LOL There's a reason we're in a wine of the month club and it ain't just to try new wines! :)
"Motherhood is hard." NO LIE!!
I joke that my boys are the vortex of stubborness (is that two "n's"?). They come by it so honestly from a long line of stubborn relatives on both sides that they just can't be blamed.
However, that does cause one to want to drink occasionally!
PS--Love some of the books you're reading right now.
The Lovely Bones was soo good. And Night? How are you liking them?
So many times, my daughter's actions frustrate me so much. Until my hubby graciously points out how much alike she and I really are. Maybe that's the tough part: seeing some of her struggles and knowing I've been through them myself!
After his letter to the internet, your dog will always hold a spot in my heart.
Your dog farts like an old man? That's hilarious.
I agree with oh, the joys. After the dog's letter, he has to stay!
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I haven't yet come to the potty-training issue with my little princess, but lemme just say that the fact that Princess SF sleeps is cause for RE-JOICING!!!
I hope my princess learns to sleep one day.
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