She is temperamental and angry and just impossible to deal with. She doesn't like anything, doesn't want to watch videos, go in the basement to play, roll play-doh, color, go to her Papa's house. Nothing.
It seems that she has been effected by that incident and can't seem to get over it. Or, it could be just a coincidence that that happened and her little mind is processing a bunch of new crap all at the same time and it scares her.
Everything scares her lately. The dark, the new side door we put in, the crazy noises like fire engines (that she used to get a kick out of) and especially the vacuum cleaner. That has always been her antagonist, but lately she cries about it when it's not even out. Yesterday, she was crying in her bed, during
And she's been having scary dreams almost every night. She doesn't wake up completely, but I hear her moaning and making noises in her sleep. It's weird because she doesn't wake up for us, she just moans and cries a little. Then, the next day, not a memory of it. She used to have night terrors often, so maybe this is her 3 year old version of them? I don't know.
She also seems like she's had just about enough of her mother and is gearing more toward her Daddy. (Can you say heartbroken?) She tells me to go away and that she wants Dog to be given away. But then in the next breath, she tells me it makes her sick when I go away. I can't even read her these days. She's one confused little lady.
I feel so badly that I can't find a way to help her. I know she's going through something. I just don't know what it is. I am at a loss. She gets so angry and she can't tell me why or how to express her feelings. She's testing all of her boundaries and finding out what is acceptable behavior and her process of discovery is killing me. I need to find a way to help her manage her feelings...sound familiar...Jesus we are one in the same! Maybe we need a break from each other for a while?
I understand that with all this work going on around our house, it has been difficult. We are on edge with different people traipsing through the house and I am not comfortable. And when Mommy's not happy...ain't no one happy! There's no diversion, we can't escape the mess and she needs to me stimulated and that hasn't been happening lately.
Oh, well...the day has begun. F is singing about her blueberry-filled doodie in her diaper and Mommy-duty calls. I hope we can make it through the day.
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This too shall pass! Those finicky little people drive me nuts! If they could only control their emotions like the rest of us! LOL! LOL!
She and The Mayor seem to be going through the same thing. I think they're just trying to understand where our parental control ends and theirs begins... everything is a battle.
Ok, we got SF, The Mayor and Princess all doing the same things here. It's GOTTA be cosmic.
Princess walks and talks in her sleep. And the whole vacuum thing? All 3 kids have this noise thing, but I remember Pumpkin when he was little - we couldn't even go anywhere NEAR the vacuums in the store. A FIT.
Princess had a BAD day yesterday, and I was so livid and at a loss. I'm praying that today will be a better day. I've made a promise to myself to try to stay more calm, in the hopes of creating a calm atmosphere in this house.
Janet, make sure you breathe - that is what I'm doing. And if you need to vent, I'll surely give you my phone number. Seriously.
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
As you know Becca has had some issues as of late too. The people upstairs scare her, ghosts, monsters, the wind ... She is not as verbal as SF yet, but give the girl time!
I am assuming they are stages ... that every kid goes through them...
Yet if I hear one more time that Becca wants a new Mommy that will take her to the zoo, I may just give up and cry in bed!
Hang in There! They are our daughters .... Oh gosh that is scary!
You two will get through this - together.
I can't stop laughing about the last part with SF "singing about her blueberry-filled doodie in her diaper"!!!!!!!
Stephen went through a phase just like this about a year ago. It will pass, just hang on. I know it's hard.
tough--on both of you. Hope the day gets better!
Hailey is having the same phase right now. It's driving me insane. Impossible to deal with, angry, and for the first time in her life, afraid of things.
I know it's just a stage but damn...this is hard.
I'm sending good thoughts...sorry that you guys are going through this.
Jenny's right.
And in you're case, I'll bet when the house calms down a bit SF will, too.
Who knows what makes them scared. My 8 year old is terrified of Santa and the Easter Bunny coming in the house and my 6 year old won't sleep close to a window or with the closet door open either. Actually, I can't sleep with closets open either. I guess they get it from me.
It sounds like she is going through a period of adjustment after a new discovery, namely that there is a threshold beyond which she cannot push you. While I admittedly have not read all your history, this is probably one of the first times she has been aware of the impact she can have on you. It's a daunting realization, that words you say can really hurt someone and make them sad, especially someone as important (both in terms of emotional connection as well as authority) as their mother.
My two cents would be to try and get her to explain what she is feeling. Helping her put words to her emotions will enable her to identify them to you, and as such, allow you to help her understand them.
We have had that happen too. Charlie is 3.5 and has had nightmares for awhile now. They are usually around 4am, though I hear true "night terrors" are during the first third of the night. Anyway, this sounds like normal 3yo stuff. The more they learn about the world, the more they realize they have something to fear. So keep being there for her (as I am sure you are) and she will make it.
My Lin has been doing the "I'm scared!" thing for a year now. Some weeks it's hardly mentioned, then all of a sudden everything scares her. She does the night terror thing, too. It's worse if she's around people she doesn't know. Gracie joins in and claims some of their favorite movies are scary. It's weird and annoying! I'm always having to tell them things...like characters in childen's shows...are not scary.
As for the moody thing, my kids have been at eachother's throats more than usual lately. It definitely goes in phases. I've talked to my friend about it b/c she experiences it too. We can't figure out which comes first...our stress...or their crankiness. Soooo difficult. I'm definitely getting my butt kicked this week! I'm so sorry Wonder Mom!!!! Hugs to you!
My 4 year-old has always been uber sensitive to moise and change. So much so, in fact, that we had to switch her bedroom with her sister (before thye asked to share a room). The noise from cars on the street wouild wake her up and she would be terrified of them.
Somtimes they just go through a phase and they are not sure what they want. They know they want to branch out on their own a little, yet they want the security of mommy and daddy to be right there.
PLus, at this age, screaming seems to be the "best" way they know how to communicate. They can't figure out what will explain their feelings and they get MAD about it, so they scream!
It will pass eventually. Hang in there. I KNOW it's hard!
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