We had a potty party yesterday! (Whoo hoo)... Complete with home-made hats, songs, dances and panty-matching games. We danced and sang all day in our panties..yes...picture that. And while she held it in for hours upon hours, she never actually sat on the pot to release. She flat out refuses.
By the end of the day, she was bloated and cranky and practically begged for a Pamper. As soon as I put it on her, she crapped. I can't say that I was much help yesterday either. I
I thought for sure she was ready. I gave her the choice of when she wanted to have the party, she chose yesterday. She decided when she wanted to wear the panties and I didn't remind her to keep dry, she did it all by choice. But when the 'pee pee dance' started, she just went bananas and refused. She ran away and cried in the corner telling us to leave her alone...just hating the thought of sitting on the crapper.
So, I yelled and lost patience all day and she got mad at me and wanted to keep far away from me. It was really great fun. Not. My kid's new mantra is "Mommy's mad." Probably not the way to potty train. Ya think?
I guess I should have known yesterday morning after the turn of events before the actual potty party began. First, I took her for a haircut and she screamed and cried and refused to sit in the cool jeep to get her hair cut. The blow driers and vacuums totally freaked her ass out. It sure wasn't like the last time she got her hair cut. Then afterward, she told me she was mad at me because she was scared and I made her stay there anyway.
Then, we went to Party Giant to get party hats for the potty party. I drove all the way into Queens to the 'closest' Party place and it was boarded up with signs all over it. Great. I was cursing.
Then, we went to Michael's to find some hats we could either just buy or make...we found some foam visors with cool foam stickers to go with them. They had "boingy" elastic on them and she fell instantly in love. They turned out gorgeous, but the tantrum in the store because she didn't want to leave should have tipped me off.
Finally, we came home and she refused to wait for my Aunt to come over to decorate the hats. She wanted to do it all by herself. I have a hard time reminding myself I need: Patience, Mommy!
We started the potty party and it all went way down hill from there. Yes. I fought for my right to potty. But the child could care less.
We even made a home complete with potty (out of the holiday boxes that UPS delivered) for her to play in...Didn't work. She loves the new home but could live without it's potty. We colored the walls outside and in, I even cut out windows with shutters and a flower box for her. I am very proud of our masterpiece.
I guess, since I can't get rid of the stress of the holidays I'll have to get rid of the stress of potty time. I'll get back to it in the new year. I may be in a padded room by then. Ha!
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Sounds like you are way too stressed to do this right now and your right she is totally picking up on it.
It is so hard not to lose your cool when they totally know and pee anyway. Both J & I have had to curse under our breaths and walk away really really fast. lol and I have totally totally lost it a few times. I swear my kid is resilient as heck!
What till the New Year. New start, the holidays over .... would a sticker reward chart work?!?! Also make sure you are not leaving the house for anything that first day and give her salty snacks and a tons to drink. Praise Praise Praise for a job well done, then act completely indifferent otherwise. Let her own it.
HUGS I totally get how frustrating it is!
Oh that brought back memories, my oldest did that, she'd hold it for HOURS then the second she was free, she'd let loose on the floor. ACK! Good luck--
A potty party sounds like a great idea. Maybe it will work after the stress of the holidays is gone. She can probably sense your tension.
Not that I have any idea what the hell I'm talking about.
There are no rules. I think leaving it 'til the new year is an excellent idea. My elder child was fully three and a half before he trained and forget night time. The second trained herself, after resisting my attempts to help.
You'll both get there. For now, enjoy the lack of having to use every. single. bathroom. in every place you go all the time. Everywhere.
Leave it to next year. I'll start with you and we can commiserate together.
:)
I feel your pain, sister.
You know how I feel about potty training. It. Doesn't. Work. They go when they are ready.
We have been trying to potty train our daughter as well. It has been tough so far. She has days where she is interested and days where she could care less.
I wish I could come to your potty party!!!! That is so freakin' cool! I know every child is different, but my oldest was not potty trained until he was fully three years old. I will not even start on my second child until he is seriously begging to go. With #1, at least I had the consistent help of the day care teachers...with #2, it's all on me. As long as I can get a size 6 pampers or a small depends around him, he's good to go! My philosophy of parenting is if they need to do it, they will before they go to college...it they need to stop doing it, they probably will before they go to college.
You are a great mom, and you wouldn't be so stressed out if you weren't...she is such a beautiful girl!!! When she gets it, it will be just like flipping a light switch! Good luck, honey...and big hugs to you and Stinkfoot!
I shoulda known Jenny had already been here. I was thinking the two of you should totally have a drink and a cry together!!
And please help me fortheloveofGod when it's my turn!!!
Thank you!
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